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BIG Goal Setting: This is Why You're Failing

• Paul Tranter • Season 2 • Episode 7

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BIG AUDACIOUS GOALS ARE THE GREATEST CAUSE OF PAIN, ANXIETY, FAILURE, REJECTION AND DEPRESSION … 


“SET YOUR GOALS FOR THE YEAR AHEAD” … YAWN! … HEARD IT ALL BEFORE.

I wrote this section many years ago when I first started out in business, as I was learning established strategies and was putting into action the things I was discovering whilst researching and writing The Omniscience Principle.

Every guru I studied had THE answer and would preach something along the line of:

Goal setting will become your number one skill. Once you have mastered goal setting, everything else will follow.


Today, many, long, hard, arduous years later, I feel that this section needs to come with a big, fat Entrepreneur Health Warning!
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Discover life-changing motivational that will ignite your passion and drive you towards success. In this inspiring video, we explore powerful words of wisdom from renowned leaders, thinkers, and achievers that can transform your mindset and help you overcome challenges.

  • 🔥 "Success is not final, failure is not fatal" - Winston Churchill
  • 🔥 "The only way to do great work is to love what you do" - Steve Jobs
  • 🔥 "Believe you can and you're halfway there" - Theodore Roosevelt


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  • "Through The Omniscience Principle and The Philosophy of I ... I broke free. I battled failure, depression and the enormous pressure to succeed for some twenty years ... I won! The experience changed the way I think, the way I see the world, the way I interact with people, the way I work. It changed my attitude t...
Speaker 1:

Hey everyone, welcome back. Today we're going to do a deep dive into well achieving goals. Pretty universal topic right Totally. It kind of flips the script on that whole. Set smart goals advice.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, how so.

Speaker 1:

What's more about understanding the psychology of goals like even the negative stuff.

Speaker 2:

Oh, interesting. So like the mental and emotional side of things, Exactly.

Speaker 1:

It's almost like think of it as a gamer's guide to leveling up in life. I thought that was a pretty cool way to look at it.

Speaker 2:

Definitely unique. I'm curious to hear more about this health warning the source gives about goal setting, not the usual pep talk you expect, huh.

Speaker 1:

Right, it's like hold on. There might be some downsides to all this goal chasing.

Speaker 2:

So what are some of these potential downsides? Does it get into specifics?

Speaker 1:

It does. It talks about how all that pressure to achieve can actually backfire like, trigger anxiety or even lead to feeling depressed if we don't hit the mark. And it's not just like a surface level mention. It goes into the science of how our bodies react.

Speaker 2:

Ah, so it's getting into those physiological responses.

Speaker 1:

Totally Like how cortisol, the stress hormone, goes through the roof when we experience failure and that can actually feel like physical pain.

Speaker 2:

I've definitely felt that like a gut punch.

Speaker 1:

Right, and the source even mentions this study about. Get this football kickers After missing a kick, they actually perceive the goal posts as being further away. Isn't that wild?

Speaker 2:

Whoa, that's messed up Right as being further away.

Speaker 1:

Isn't that wild Whoa? That's messed up Right Like our brains are playing tricks on us, making the challenge seem even bigger after a setback. I've totally been there, Like when I set some super ambitious goal and then I hit a snag and you just want to give up.

Speaker 2:

Makes sense. So how does the source suggest we deal with that?

Speaker 1:

That's where the whole vision thing comes in. It uses this analogy of decorating a room while blindfolded, thinking you're doing great, but then you take the blindfold off and it's a disaster.

Speaker 2:

Uh-huh, yeah, that's a good way to put it.

Speaker 1:

The point is, without a clear vision, setting goals can be kind of like that Just a bunch of random efforts that don't really add up to much.

Speaker 2:

I've been there, jumping from project to project, feeling lost.

Speaker 1:

Me too. But here's what I found interesting the source doesn't just stop at have a vision, it actually lays out 12 specific steps for achieving any goal 12 steps, so it's like a framework or a process. Exactly, and these steps aren't about setting specific goals like run a marathon or learn Italian or whatever. It's more about how you approach any goal.

Speaker 2:

So it's like a universal system for goal achievement.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, that's a good way to put it. For example, let's say you're unhappy at your job, right, and you want to quit.

Speaker 2:

In there.

Speaker 1:

Right the source. Cautions against just like storming into your boss's office tomorrow and yelling I quit.

Speaker 2:

Huh, tempting, but probably not the best strategy Right but probably not the best strategy Right.

Speaker 1:

instead, it's about being strategic, planning your exit, maybe learning some new skills, doing some networking, so you're not just jumping into the void.

Speaker 2:

So even something as emotional as quitting a job needs a plan, according to this source. I like that.

Speaker 1:

Me too. It's about having a clear path, even when it feels scary. But okay, we've got vision and a step-by-step plan, but what about the actual doing the?

Speaker 2:

That's the million dollar question. Right, we can have the best plans in the world, but without that drive, that fuel to keep us going, it's all kind of pointless.

Speaker 1:

Exactly, and this is where the source brings in this super interesting concept called progression and reward, and it all ties back to that gamer analogy we were talking about. Think about those games that keep you hooked for hours. What is it about them that makes them so compelling? It's got to be that feeling of accomplishment, right like you're constantly leveling up, unlocking new abilities exactly, and the source argues that we can actually tap into that same addictive cycle in real life wait.

Speaker 2:

So you're saying we can make real life goals as addictive as video games. How does that work?

Speaker 1:

by strategically building in rewards as we progress towards our goals.

Speaker 2:

Okay, I'm intrigued. So it's not just about the big end goal, but also about enjoying the process and celebrating those little milestones along the way.

Speaker 1:

Exactly, and the source even shares this anecdote about a mountain bike ride After clearing this super challenging section of trail. The author describes feeling this rush of endorphins almost like a natural high. It's that feeling of I did it that we can actually use to fuel our motivation.

Speaker 2:

So it's like hacking our own reward system using those feel-good chemicals to our advantage. Pretty clever.

Speaker 1:

Right, but how do we actually apply this progression and reward system to our own lives, like? What does that look like in practice?

Speaker 2:

Well, the source suggests treating each step in that 12-step plan we talked about as a level in a game, and each time we conquer a level we reward ourselves.

Speaker 1:

Okay, I'm starting to get the picture. So if my goal is, let's say, to write a novel and I finish a chapter, I could reward myself with a fancy coffee or a movie night something I enjoy.

Speaker 2:

Exactly. It's about linking pleasure to those accomplishments, no matter how small.

Speaker 1:

I like that, make it feel good. So you want to keep going.

Speaker 2:

And the more you experience that positive reinforcement, the more your brain starts to crave it, making you more likely to keep pushing towards those goals. You're literally training your brain to see goal achievement as something positive and rewarding instead of stressful.

Speaker 1:

This started to sound less like a chore and more like well, a game. I like where this is going.

Speaker 2:

Me too. But here's an interesting twist this source isn't just about racing towards the finish line. It also emphasizes the importance of like enjoying the present moment, even while you're striving towards those big goals.

Speaker 1:

So it's not just about the destination, it's about enjoying the journey itself.

Speaker 2:

Exactly. The source even suggests carrying a reminder of your goals and the rewards you've associated with them. It's like stay focused on where you want to go, but also savor each step along the way.

Speaker 1:

That's such a good point. We get so caught up in chasing the next big thing that we forget to appreciate where we are right now.

Speaker 2:

It's easy to fall into that trap, but what if this whole goal setting thing isn't just about achieving external things, but also about cultivating a more fulfilling life overall?

Speaker 1:

That's deep, and it makes me think about how this source actually expands this progression and reward concept beyond just material goals. It talks about applying it to emotional well-being too.

Speaker 2:

Really, give me an example.

Speaker 1:

Like ending an unhappy relationship.

Speaker 2:

Oh wow, I wouldn't have thought to apply goal-setting principles to something like that.

Speaker 1:

Right, but it makes sense if you're in a situation that's not serving you anymore. Having a plan for moving on, breaking it down into steps and even having something positive to look forward to on the other side can make that transition so much smoother.

Speaker 2:

Powerful stuff. It's like this source is giving us a framework for tackling any challenge and actually finding some joy in the process.

Speaker 1:

Totally so. Think about it. What are those goals you've been working towards, big or small? How can you bring in this vision-driven, reward-based approach to make those journeys more enjoyable and, ultimately, more successful?

Speaker 2:

Great question, but hold on, we're not done yet. This source has one more mind-blowing concept that I'm dying to unpack their take on failure and trust me, it's not what you'd expect.

Speaker 1:

Ooh, cliffhanger. All right, listeners, stay tuned, because we're about to get into some seriously thought-provoking stuff. Okay, so we've covered a lot of ground already Vision, breaking down goals, even building in rewards but let's be honest, things don't always go as planned. What about those times when we, you know, we stumble, when we don't quite hit the mark?

Speaker 2:

Right Failure, the big F word. Most people try to avoid it at all costs, but this source, it actually embraces failure like it's a necessary part of winning.

Speaker 1:

Whoa, hold on. Isn't that kind of counterintuitive? Like we're constantly told, failure is not an option and all that.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, it definitely challenges that whole mindset. The author even tells this story about attempting a super difficult mountain bike drop off like a really gnarly one, and he goes for it totally wipes out. But instead of getting all discouraged he gets back up, dusts himself off and tries to figure out what went wrong so it's like, instead of seeing it as a defeat, it's more like, okay, what can I learn from this? Exactly. Failure becomes this feedback loop, helping you course correct.

Speaker 1:

I like that. So it's not about avoiding those jumps on the trail of life, it's about learning how to clear them, even if we crash a few times along the way.

Speaker 2:

Couldn't have said it better myself. And the source actually takes this analogy even further with this idea of a racetrack. Imagine a track that's just this smooth straight line, kind of boring right.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, not very exciting. Where's the challenge?

Speaker 2:

Exactly. But that's not how real life works, the real path to success. It's filled with twists, turns and, yes, those obstacles, those failures were bound to encounter.

Speaker 1:

So it's not about trying to avoid the obstacles altogether. It's about learning how to navigate them, becoming a better driver. So to week.

Speaker 2:

Exactly, and it's those challenges that actually make it interesting, make it worth doing. And here's a radical thought. The source suggests that consistently failing might just mean you're pushing your limits. You're still in the game.

Speaker 1:

OK, I got to admit this is kind of blowing my mind. So instead of fearing failure, we can actually reframe it as a stepping stone to success. I mean, I can't tell you how many times I've held back from doing something because I was afraid of messing up.

Speaker 2:

Right, but this source is basically saying go for it, Even if you stumble. The important thing is to keep moving forward.

Speaker 1:

That's powerful and it actually connects back to that look up philosophy we were talking about earlier.

Speaker 2:

Right. It's not just about how we view failure. It's also about where we choose to focus our attention.

Speaker 1:

So give me an example. How does this source illustrate that connection?

Speaker 2:

Well, there's this one about the author's wife, who teaches horseback riding. She's noticed that riders who fixate on the jump itself they're more likely to falter, but those who keep their eyes on where they want to land on the other side of the obstacle, they tend to succeed.

Speaker 1:

It's like they're visualizing the win and that focus helps them get there. It's kind of like those optical illusions where if you stare at the center you miss the movement happening in the periphery. If we're too focused on the obstacle, we might miss the bigger picture.

Speaker 2:

Exactly. And there's another great example about rut fever in mountain biking. If you're riding and you fixate on that rut in the trail, you're pretty much guaranteed to fall into it. But if you look ahead to where you want to go, you're way more likely to stay upright.

Speaker 1:

Wow, so our minds can literally influence our reality. Yeah, if we dwell on the negative, we're more likely to stumble, but if we keep our eyes on the prize, we're better equipped to handle those challenges.

Speaker 2:

And to really drive this point home, the source uses this analogy of a Maori fish hook.

Speaker 1:

A fish hook.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, it's pretty brilliant. You see, you can't catch a fish if your hook isn't in the water. You have to be willing to take action, even if there's a chance of getting snagged or coming up empty.

Speaker 1:

So it's a reminder that we can't just sit on the sidelines and wait for things to happen. We have to be active participants in our own lives, even if it means the possibility of failure.

Speaker 2:

And maybe, just maybe, that possibility of failure is what makes it all worthwhile.

Speaker 1:

Okay, so we've talked about a lot vision, those 12 steps and even reframing failure, but how do we actually put this progression and reward thing into practice? It sounds great in theory, but I'm still kind of fuzzy on the how-to.

Speaker 2:

Well, think of it like those video games you know, the ones that keep you glued to the screen for hours. It's that addictive cycle of achievement we're trying to tap into.

Speaker 1:

Right, but in real life we don't get those fancy experience points or level up every five minutes. So how do we make it work?

Speaker 2:

Remember those 12 steps we talked about. Think of each step as a level in your own personal game of life, and each time you beat a level you get a reward.

Speaker 1:

So instead of getting overwhelmed by the big picture, we break it down into smaller chunks and then we celebrate those wins along the way. I like that.

Speaker 2:

Exactly, and those rewards. They don't have to be anything crazy. It could be as simple as taking a long bath, buying that book you've been wanting, or just having a night where you completely veg out and watch TV.

Speaker 1:

The point is to make it feel good, right? So you actually want to keep going.

Speaker 2:

Exactly, and the more you experience that reward, the more your brain starts to crave it. You're literally rewiring your brain to see goal achievement as something positive and enjoyable, not something to stress over.

Speaker 1:

So no more white knuckling it through those to-do lists Sign me up. But what about when things get tough? Because, let's be real, there are going to be times when we hit a snag, when we don't quite make it.

Speaker 2:

That's where that whole reframing of failure comes in. Remember, it's not about being perfect, it's about learning from those stumbles and using them to course correct. The source uses this analogy of a mountain bike trail, you know, with all those jumps and obstacles.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, I can picture it.

Speaker 2:

So, instead of trying to avoid those jumps, we got to learn to jump over them. And yeah, we might crash a few times, but each time we get back up we're a little bit stronger, a little bit more skilled.

Speaker 1:

I like that Falling down is part of the process.

Speaker 2:

It is, and that's where that merry fish hook analogy comes full circle. You got to be willing to put your hook in the water, even if it means risking getting snagged.

Speaker 1:

So basically, if you're not even playing the game, you can't win.

Speaker 2:

Exactly, and with this system, we can actually turn those setbacks into wins. You know, learn from them, adjust our approach and keep moving forward.

Speaker 1:

That's a pretty empowering way to look at it.

Speaker 2:

Right and remember. It's not just about pushing through. It's about enjoying the ride, celebrating those small wins, being kind to ourselves when we stumble and, most importantly, keeping our eyes on the prize.

Speaker 1:

I love that Look up. Keep moving forward and don't forget to enjoy the journey.

Speaker 2:

That's what it's all about.

Speaker 1:

This has been such a thought-provoking deep dive. Yeah, really makes you rethink the whole goal-setting thing.

Speaker 2:

Definitely challenges the status quo.

Speaker 1:

So, to wrap things up, let's leave our listeners with a little challenge what's one small step you can take today towards a goal you've been working on, and what little reward can you give yourself for taking that step? Remember, even the smallest actions can create huge momentum.

Speaker 2:

It all starts with that first step.

Speaker 1:

Until next time, keep exploring, keep learning and keep looking up.

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